Ask someone why they had, or are having an extra marital affair and you may hear something like this: “I have a lousy marriage. My marriage is dead. There is no intimacy, no sex, and no excitement. The love is gone. We’ve grown apart. I can’t stand the marriage. There was nothing happening in the marriage and the affair just happened.�These statements are rationalizations and fail to “get at� the underlying issues.
Key points:
It’s as if a marriage is an animal gone bad. A marriage does not have a life of it’s own. In reality, there is no such thing as a “marriage.� One is “married� as a result of making some promises and signing a paper at one point. But , stopping an affair from getting any more deeper is not any big task in life.